a moment in time, purged into words
a moment in time, purged into words
So, I really enjoy spending time with myself, a lot. So much so, that I would rather hang out with myself, then with most people… And those fellow beings who are also on the awakening path and the journey of self-realization, will laugh and say “Dude, I so know what you mean…”
The more I learn, realize, and become aware, the more that which once really excited and entertained me becomes so incredibly tasteless and boring. And of course, for my conscious ascension it is something I will learn to ‘get over’. The lesson in this for me is to enjoy all things, tasteless and boring or ecstatic and wonderful, equally as if all were exactly that which I desire… However for now, I’m totally cool with spending my Saturday nights drooling over new discoveries in science, physics, consciousness, and human behavior… It turns me on.
If someone gives me a “poor me” story with the intent to receive a “Naww, you poor thing” response, I remind them that I destroyed my sympathy violin a few years ago, and to take their energy sucking story elsewhere (Oh, that’s why I don’t have any friends…)In saying that, the more I study human nature, human behavior, the system, awake vs asleep, blah, blah, the more I can now define (mostly through an energetic feeling developed through immense amounts of meditation) who deserves the sound of the sympathy violin or not.
In the age of information, you have everything you could ever need and want at your fingertips, the ENTIRE world of knowledge exists on your smart phone (HELLO! That’s why it’s called a SMART PHONE!) When I realized this, like actually realized the power of knowledge, I began to study, and study hard. I’ve committed myself to a life of self-discovery and research, so I can uphold a certain vibratory resonance and state of BEing for the collective, and so I can learn and share, in a way that makes sense for everyone and not just those weirdo’s like me.
So the quote “Darling, just fucking own it” sparked something with in me. Why? Because the amount of times I say that (in my head) during conversations with friends and family is almost immeasurable. So I’m going to share with you what that even means…. How your reality is created by YOU, and all that is happening in your life is a result of YOUR choices, and not some external force or fate….
“Wait, what did you say? Are you telling me, all those times when I felt miserable, that was my fault? My doing?” … Yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying. Read on…
There are three ‘things’ that play a part here:
1 – Your conscious mind (you)
2 – Your subconscious (inner world)
3 – Your world, your version of reality (outer world) – Please note, there are 7.2 billion people on this earth, that means that there are 7.2 billion different versions of reality. Never assume that your reality is the only real and true reality, or the same as other peoples reality… because it’s not.
Your conscious mind is selective. It can look at something and say “This is good” “That is bad” “That is a bird” “That belongs to Mary” “That is right” “That is wrong” etc etc.
The beginning of all creation begins first with a conscious idea. That idea is then impressed onto the subconscious mind through a feeling.
Important note: The subconscious mind is not selective. This means, what you can consciously conceive to be right or wrong, hers or his, the subconscious can not. It doesn’t know you or me, it doesn’t know right or wrong, or separation, it’s ALL things, you are me and I am you and we are everything.
Once the conscious idea has generated a feeling, that feeling is accepted as true and real by the subconscious. The subconscious contemplates the idea as fact, existing within itself, and then proceeds to give it expression.
Creation is the result of the subconscious impression. The subconscious impression is a result of a feeling, the feeling is the result of a consciously chosen idea, that idea was chosen by you. You, by your thoughts and emotions, determine your reality. You are the creator.
Creation is limited only by your ideas and your thoughts.
Napoleon Hill said “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve”. The simple (an amazing) quality of the subconscious (that it is not selective) means that even if consciously the idea is perceived as impossible, the subconscious will still bring it to expression. There is nothing impossible to the subconscious, thus nothing impossible to man.
There is a huge “BUT!” here… So listen up….
Once you generate the thought, or the idea, be consciously concerned only with the objective and the outcome.
How the outcome will come to manifest, or the ‘difficulties involved’ are not to be considered by you. If you think about the difficulties, road blocks, or barriers, these ideas generate the feeling of doubt/failure and will be impressed onto the subconscious. And because the subconscious is a non-selective faithful servant, it accepts the feelings of doubt as true, and proceeds to bring forth difficulties, road blocks and barriers into your outer world.
Contemplate only the outcome and the feeling of HAVING that outcome. The subconscious will then make it happen. It is then of course up to you to be aware, willing and open to see the opportunities the subconscious is giving you EVERY DAY in order to bring that outcome to its expression.
You know those wonderful synchronistic moments, those coincidences? That’s the subconscious at work…
I KNOW! It’s amazing right?!
What you desire on your outer world is not subconsciously accepted until you undertake and accept the feeling of the reality of owning and having that desire. Only through the feeling of that which is desired can anything be received and accepted by the subconscious and only through the acceptance can it be expressed.
Everything evolves from consciousness. Humans have the power to imagine, dream, think and feel; that combined with your freedom of choice gives you control over creation. You get to choose what you want to think and what you want to feel, hence you have control of what your reality consists of and what is created around you. You are the creator.
The key then lies in your thoughts and then your feelings. What are you thinking? Are you even thinking? Or are you on autopilot, drifting through life (that’s 95% of Earth’s population by the way). How you think, is another topic… I will share that goodness with you another day.
For now, it’s important to note a very key point about your thoughts, ideas and feelings. “I am healthy” will generate a stronger feeling then “I will be healthy”. The feeling of “I will be” is to admit that you are not.
When contemplating the idea of becoming a rock star, do not think “One day, I will be a rock star” … because the subconscious will always only give you ‘becoming a rock star’ and you will forever only be ‘becoming’ and never ‘a’ rock star. Instead, contemplate “I AM a rock star” and feel what it is like to BE a rock star … The subconscious will receive this as true and bring it into expression in your outer world.
The subconscious never fails at bringing an expression to manifestation in your outer world. The subconscious can, must and WILL actualize anything that is conceived and felt by you. That is the job of this faithful servant.
Albert Einstein “Humanity is going to require a substantially new way of thinking if it is to survive”
It is imperative then, to learn how you think, so you can then learn to control and choosewhat you think. Becausewhatyou think will determine how you feel, and what you feel will determine what impression is made on the subconscious, and that impression will determine what is created and bought forth to expression in your reality.
When I learnt how to think (which was sometime during 2013… yes, I’ve only REALLY been actually THINKING for a little over a year…) I was absolutely astounded and on some level, disgusted that what I had learnt (and now teach) is NOT taught in schools. However, the more I investigated the education system, I came to realize they don’t want you to know how to think, because then you wouldn’t consume, conform and drift. Again, that’s another can of worms for another day…
A very common trait of humans is to look externally for something that makes them feel good. There is this misconception that the more you have the happier you are. This is based off both truth and non-truth.
What I mean is; if you’re cold, naked, stuck in the woods at night time, lost and it’s raining, you’re not going to be very happy… Some kind person finds you, invites you into their home, gives you clothes, food and a fire to sit beside to keep warm, you’re going to go from unhappy to happy, very quickly with very little. That is all truth. The non-truth is, if [THIS MUCH] makes me [THIS] happy, then 10 times that amount must make me 10 times happier, and 100 times that makes me 100 times happier. If you have 2 million dollars, you are not twice as happy as what you would be if you have 1 million dollars. This is simply not the way to become happy.
To look outside of yourself for that which you do not feel (to look for something to make you feel happy when you feel sad), is absolutely useless. You can never find something that which you want; you can only find that which you are.
Yes, it is easier for you to attribute your feelings to moments and events in the outer world then it is to confess the conditions of your reality as a reflection of your feelings. However, it is eternally and infinitely true, that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
So what does this all mean for you?
It means when something ‘bad’ is happening in your life, you can either a) choose to think negatively, and feeling less then desirable feelings, thus have created for you a gloomy and depressing reality or b) choose to accept it for what it is, think positively and assume great feelings and thus have created for you a bright, opportunistic abundant reality. Ever heard the saying ‘Fake it till you make it!’? Well, that’s when you put it into practice. It’s that easy. A change in impression is a change in expression.
What else does this mean for me…?
It means you are everything you wish to be already, your refusal of this is why you cannot see it yet.
So, darling, your reality is exactly as it is, because you made it this way. You are the creator.
Abundant love, Lexi xx
How long have you been coaching?
Professionally, just under 18 months.
How do you define ‘success’?
There is an approximate of 7.2 billion people on this beautiful planet, and I can confidently say, there are 7.2 billion definitions of success. I believe I have defined success (for me), although it simultaneously changes and evolves, as I grow as human being.
I remember thinking that success was having a good job with high responsibility, a 6-figure wage, a nice car, and nice home and a good-looking boyfriend. And unless I had ALL of these, I wasn’t successful. So I spent a lot of my time feeling relatively unsuccessful as I continuously compared myself with others who had these ‘things’ and with that ‘person’ I thought I had to be.
It was through my own experience, and awakening, that I came to realize that success doesn’t exist in the form, but rather experienced through the formless. Meaning, even if I DID have all those things (form) I thought I needed, I wouldn’t have ever felt that feeling (formless) of success that I was searching for. Success is an inside job.
Success is not in the ‘doing’ of anything, but rather in the ‘how’ it’s being done. As long as I have happiness in that very moment (or at least acceptance!), it doesn’t matter what I’m doing. When I made this conscious shift, and began to align my inner world with my outer world, the opportunity, money, people and things that I was striving for previously and never seemed to reach, seemed to flow into my world effortlessly and abundantly.
Success isn’t determined by what you have or what you do, but rather how you do it. Society may claim the man sweeping the streets is unsuccessful, but if this man loves what he does, and brings love and laughter to it, this man is more successful then the rich banker on antidepressants who suffers anxiety in his million dollar home.
I remember hearing stories like this before in my ‘previous life’… Part of me wanted to believe this blissful visual, but at that point in my life part of me didn’t believe it was possible. Until I discovered it for myself, and experienced the complete bliss and peacefulness that now fills me from head to toe, every day.
It was through this realization; that I decided it was my mission to share my learnings and experience with others, so they too could have this blissful happiness in every moment, and realise that ‘thing’ they spend their entire life searching for, is right under their nose… literally.
What do you believe about coaching?
Coaching is like a ‘friendly reminder’. There is nothing that I know, that my clients don’t already know, I just remind them.
An objective view on certain circumstances, along with the sharing of wisdom and knowledge, and to be pushed out of a comfort zone, is crucial and imperative for growth.
I don’t believe people ‘need’ coaching, some people are happy with average lives, drifting with the flow of life. However if an extraordinary, fruitful, passionate and abundant life is what is desired, coaches bring the tools, wisdom, steps and knowledge and in most cases, the experience, to make this happen.
I’m eternally grateful for the ‘friendly reminders’, sharing’s and gentle pushes I’ve received from my coaches. I wouldn’t be where I am today without their guidance, love and knowledge.
What do you believe about change?
It’s inevitable! Everything is changing, all the time. If it’s not changing, it’s dead.
The key with change is how you choose to handle it, how you choose to ‘react’ to it. Change cannot be controlled, it happens weather we like it or not. What we CAN control, is our reaction to it, the meaning we give it, and how we feel about it.
What do you believe about time?
Time is a social and mental construct. There is only now.
For me, time is forever unfolding moments of now.
The past is memory, which exists only in our head. The future is anticipation or created visuals, which also exists only in our head. There is only now!
Unless time (and the mind!!) is understood, humans will constantly live in fear of it. The past is carried around on shoulders all over the world: “Because this happened to me in the past; this means I can’t do this.” Or “I will have pain for the rest of my life because ‘so-and-so’ did this to me” … The only place it exists is in our minds and in the stories we create.
At any moment, every man, woman and child has a choice. The only person bringing that pain of the past or the fear of the future into your life; is you. Awakening is the realization of presence, the now.
What do you believe about money?
Money is energy, the same as humans are energy. I believe you attract money, the same way you attract humans and I believe you have a relationship with money the same way you have with humans.
If you treat another human badly, that human isn’t going to want to come and see you, it may even speak badly of you to others. I see the relationship with money the same. If I abuse, misuse, or condemn money, why would it want to come to me? Why would my mind provide for me the opportunities to receive money when I talk badly of it or abuse it? The mind will only give you what you really want, so if I have negative energy or thoughts around money, it will not flow to me.
When you align your inner world with your outer world, you create balance. When this balance is created, the abundant love and energy flows to you and through you. When I stopped searching for money, money came to me. When I stopped giving with the expectation of receiving (anything!), I received more then I could ever have wished for.
What do you value?
I value love, growth, adventure, creativity and contribution
What are your rules around these values?
I am love and love is everything – so there are no rules there.
Growth – I choose to grow from every moment. Each moment contains a lesson and a positive learning. If you don’t grow, you die. I also see and feel with the more growth and education I have; the more I can share and serve others.
Adventure – Everyday is an adventure for me! Although I set myself tasks and to-do’s for my days ahead, I am flexible for whatever else comes my way, and because of this, every day is different, new and unexpected. I push myself often to get out of my comfort zone; an adventure outside the realm of certainty and into the realm of uncertainty!
Creativity – All geniuses and entrepreneurs are creative. They see things different to others, step outside the realm of certainty, outside of what’s comfortable and look at things from a completely different perspective. I admire creative thinkers, and aspire to be more of one. To strengthen my creative thinking, I embrace my creativity through different forms of expression.
Art has no boundaries. You can paint outside the lines, you can color-in trees whatever color you wish, you can distort images. It is a completely blank canvas to which you can put ANYTHING you dream onto it. This is how I see life. Each moment, you are presented with a blank canvas, and in this moment, you can paint what ever you choose on it….
Embracing creative expression through art and music has strengthened my ability to be a creative business thinker. The more creativity I use and express, the more creative, exciting and colorful my life and I become.
Contribution – Contributing to other peoples lives and to this earth is my deepest desire. Everybody has the ability to give and to serve, even if it’s just a smile. I ensure that each time I connect with a person, I want them feeling better than what they were when they saw me. And each place I go to, I leave in a better condition then when I arrived. I pick up rubbish when I walk past it, I don’t leave it on the floor for someone else, I smile at strangers, talk to cashiers, and give love and gratitude to everyone.
I am constantly reminded how beautiful and important contribution is, especially during my workshops. I see people walk through the door, confused, lost, depressed, close to giving up, and I see them leave glowing from the inside out, empowered, inspired, courageous and strong. There is no better feeling in this world, then giving and sharing from the heart and watching those around you blossom as a result.
I am a dreamer, an art maker, a passport stamp collector. I have a masters in laughter and am a world renowned love maker. I’m a wannabe (and will be) world changer, a frequent smiler, a devoted prayer and an avid forgiver. I’m a sand magnet & sun seeker, a dancing drifter and a risk taking adventurer. And hopefully when I look back, a professional life rider and full fledged compassion giver. I LOVE, I DREAM, I DARE, I DO.
To love another, you must love yourself. I love me, and I love you. I am liberated and I liberate. My strength comes from within, and my freedom follows. <3
Love Lexi xx
There is no falling in love, there is only rising in love. The universe bringing together, two whole souls whom accept both the light and the dark of one another, whom uphold and challenge one another to be and become their higher self. Rising in love in every moment, not just the first moment. Experiencing the first kiss, in every kiss.
Connecting as finite humans and infinite beings, not only having physical and mental attraction in the 3D realm, but a deeper formless attraction in every other dimension, simultaneously. Intimacy, begins in the physical form, and extends infinitely through the formless and eternal, the one and all, taking not only your body and mind to ecstasy, but your soul and source.
Your presence is effortless and sharp and you listen with every intent to understand rather than to respond. Your consistent flowing river of love is gifted in every moment with no expectation of anything in return. You ask of nothing, and offer all. When the two wholes sit in this seat, a bond deeper then Earths core is wound. Only love and light is offered when flaws begin to show and ego begins to rise… “I will only heal, I will never judge”
Souls eternally sealed with a gaze into each other’s infinitely deep eyes, the universe experiencing its love in form… and celebrating this manifestation through intimate affection, care and presence.
Each soul found self, before they found each other. Unconditional love was established deep within self, boundaries had begun burning, limitations had been crushed, and fears are being faced, all in Oneness and complete surrender.
When two halves come together, to fall in love, damage can be done. Without wholeness; fear, greed and desire cloud action. Situations are misinterpreted creating incessant moments of conflict, misguided action; distorted understanding and all are reflection of self and a lack of unconditional love of self. Each being should focus only on what they have in common, rather than their differences. If there is a difference of energy and wavelength, accept what is, there no need to change yourself, or them. Let it go, and let it be.
Real men undress the consciousness before he undresses the body. Caressing her mind, interested in her every thought and vision. Women, be patient, wait for a man who makes love to your every word and who doesn’t cower with intimidation at the strength of your vision and your Divine feminine energy. Be with a man who embraces your strength and power, and takes it as an opportunity to step into more of his. Be patient, for the man who salivates at undressing and caressing your limitations and boundaries with care, so you can flower and blossom in the garden of his warrior heart. Be patient for a man who offers warm and strong arms, in the winter of your weakest moments, a man who stands firm and certain in the wildest of your storms. Be patient for a man who sees your spring, during your autumn, and your summer during your winter. Be patient for a man, who loves all your seasons and holds no fear of the unknown and never turns his back. A man who loves unconditionally, entirely and wholly. Be patient for a man who trembles with desire to see your bare soul, instead of your bare body.
Be a woman who hears a man’s desires, feels a man’s trust and tastes a man’s love before they’re expressed. Heal his silent fears so his strength can be loud; care for his beating heart so his mind can be still. Comfort his soul with your light energy, bringing flow to his realm. Be considerate of his creative and emotional expression; embrace his softness so he can embrace his power. Be a woman who feeds a man’s passions with your gentle strength and intimacy. Listen so he can speak… Trust in him, to protect you from your fear. Understand and respect his seat upon which he sits in his kingdom so you can dance and sing in your forest. Surrender to his touch and bring to manifest his every sexual dream and desire.
Do not look for this man. The more you look, the more you will not see. The more you desire him, the more you ache. He comes only when you are ready. When you are whole. When you love yourself completely, entirely, infinitely and unconditionally.
You will grow together, forever upholding each other’s highest and deepest self, simultaneously being acutely aware of ones own deepest desires, fears, and inhibitions… forever being transparent and true. Make his dreams, your dreams… and a real man will make your dreams, his dreams. Forgive often, never bring up the past, remain entirely present, and together with an authentic fulfilling connection you will dream of your future.
Know yourself, look within. Know your weakness and know your strengths. Know your desires and know your fears. Know your self-worth and never drop your standard. Laugh at the superfluous and let only your beauty shine through. Know that at any given moment, you could never be alone, because you always have you. Love yourself so you find a man worthy. Your body is a vessel for the divine, focus on your inner world, and the outer will flow.
The universe will only bring to you that which you’re ready for, that which will either be a lesson or a blessing. Know when to walk away from the learnt lesson, and know when you stay and heal the blessing. The universe decides who comes into your life, but only you can decide who stays. Ride the incessant glistening waves of life’s oceans with dignity, strength and certainty… and in times of unknown, take your certainty with you.
Ladies, be patient for man who proves what he says, because if he can’t show it or prove it, his words are weightless. Be patient, for a man who honors and worships the ground your Divinity walks upon so you can give this man the world. Our deepest desire as humans is for the feminine and masculine union, until there is complete honor between two people, there cannot be a Divine union.
Love Lexi xx
Gone are the days where sex is merely an act of procreation. In recent weeks, I’ve had some serious thought about sex, what it is, reasons we do it and the old taboos and perceptions that are carried along with it. I had come to a dilemma as I am recently single and didn’t like not having the sexual attention and affection that comes along with being in a relationship. However, enjoying the single life, I found it difficult to meet those needs, with out being, well, promiscuous. After an in-depth conversation with a dear friend, I was given the advice “Lexi, sex these days is just as common as picking your nose.” This obviously led to deep thoughts, research and investigations.
Lets get technical for a little bit… Perceptions are created through a very complicated process, where by the 20million bits of information that is handed to us every second is deleted, distorted and generalized through internal filters. These filters, are (mostly) created through unconscious conditioning and programing from a very early age, and change slightly as we grow. This is how our reality is created and also how perception is created. Think of it like this, ask your Year 3 teacher how she feels about having sex with different men; or perhaps ask your grandmother how she feels about sex before marriage. Then go ahead and ask the counter staff at Supré the same questions. Guaranteed, you will receive totally different answers and reasoning’s. Which is why, sex, which was once a conversation not to be had at the dinner table, is now something that is spoken about freely at the office coffee machine, at the gym or at high-tea with the ladies.
Some profound guidance my grandmother once gave me was “anything in moderation is good for you” …so long as you bring balloons to your party to practice safe sex and (of course) stay classy!
With every journey down any road, we come across roadblocks, potholes and detours. So here are some tips to make your single life ‘ride’ smoother;
• Men love it when you take control in the bedroom, but you also need to take control of those emotions – saying that, we ladies are naturally an emotional bunch, that’s what makes us such wonderful creatures, just keep that tiger in its cage when needed.
• Learn the language of sex, if it feels good, tell him, but there’s no need to talk about what you did once in the bedroom with ‘some other guy’, they hate that, as far as they’re concerned, they’re your first.
• Ladies, don’t be upset if all they want to do is sleep after sex, it’s actually not there fault! Keep reading to find out why…
• It’s a common misconception that men are the only rulers in the bedroom, so when your lady (gets out of her comfort zone) and takes the reigns, give her encouragement.
• Saying that, there is nothing sexier then being taken by a man, seduced by a warrior and swept of our feet. In fact, as a man, it is all but your duty to be this sexy, manly knight that makes us ladies feel feminine, safe and sexy. The safer we feel, the more feminine and open we’ll be.
• Ever wondered why you always want to sleep post-sex? (Ladies listen up!) Among many other chemicals, Prolactin is released into almost everyone’s bloodstream immediately after an orgasm. This chemical disengages you from sexual thoughts and feelings, allowing you to think of other things (probably the only moment in a day when you men are not thinking about sex!). Endorphins are released also, post sex. Some give you the feelings of euphoria, pleasure, calmness and deep relaxation. It’s been said that the faster you fall asleep, the better the sex, so ladies, take their dozing as a compliment and men – you’ve just been handed a get out of jail free card – it’s just your endorphins at work!
Sex – we do it for many reasons and one in particular sticks out for me, because it feels good. Just because Grandma has trouble seeing eye-to-eye with us on that one, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t think it. Sex incorporates so much of our mind; in fact, most of sex is actually in our imagination. Our mind is a beautifully complicated ‘machine’ that is unlimited in its potential and power. My advice; get educated; learn about the mind, the body, and sex, don’t be ashamed that you enjoy sex and like doing it often – you’re not the only one.
Love Lexi xx
We are all one. To be kind to you, you must be kind to ALL. To have a love of self, you must love ALL. Your unconscious mind is impersonal and because the unconscious mind is impersonal, the moment you are critical of someone else or their success, you’ve just guaranteed that you too, will never have that level of success. Think about it; why would the universe and unconscious mind provide for you the opportunity to be successful and live an abundant life if you are critical of it? Be careful what you say and think, because YOU are always listening. If you do not understand this yet, the moment you live a life filled with love and gratitude, you will experience it all for yourself - the life you always dreamed of living, is your choice. Give love without the expectation of receiving love and you will experience love like you’ve never experienced it before.
Love Lexi xx
To often I hear circumstance and past stories being used as excuses for not living a dream… Then those same people, complain about not having the life they want.
You can not complain about the results of your life, after the work that you didn’t put in.
Both weakness and strength, laziness and motivation demand you to believe in something you can’t see… It is simply YOUR choice.
Get off your bum and get shit done! So each night when you rest, you’re proud of yourself and what you’ve accomplished, every single day.
I was once introduced to a young woman, some time ago, through a mutual friend… She shook my hand and said “Oh, you’re one of those girls who don’t have to wear make up. We don’t like you.”
After it momentarily jolted my ego… I made it part of my mission to liberate women beyond their vanity and ego… To see past the physical and into the soul…
My face is not me and my clothes are not me… I am more much then the finite material you see… I go deeper, where words can’t and don’t define, I go deeper, where time disappears, where you become we and we become one. That One is love, that One is true, that One is you.
Beyond the make up and clothes… Is the real you.
Love Lexi xx